LOVE VS 'TONGA'

If you are a Christian ,then love is imperative .
It's worth noting however that the way the world views love today is quite different from the way bible sees It. For example ,when you ask a normal boy what love is, he is most likely to say it's a feeling one has for a woman or the desire to have sex .
Many factors contribute to this . The new song -Tonga,which has not only made it's way through the internet but also into the minds of the youth in Ghana ,I believe has done more harm than good to our youth and is about time we stand as Christians and speak .
We live in an era where the true meaning of love has been given a back burner . People have twisted it so they can use it to accomplish their evil desires .

Is love  truly all about Tonga ?
The song entitled " Tonga " Is the acronym for the phrase " The Organ No Guy Avoids " . It was composed by some guy named joy b . The problem about the song is that it undermines the dignity of a woman (it's even sad to see women dance to it ) and reduces their functions and use to mere "sex machines ". Ask any guy why he follows a girl and the overt response will be " because of Tonga ". The lyrics of the song says the fact that anyone seeks to date a lady does that for sex . The artist even said he went to the extent of attending a church revival but couldn't make a move because of the girls mum . So now that he has the girls phone number ,he would talk to the girl until he eventually get the chance to sleep with her .
There is no doubt the song is a hit and people love it . Sit in any car ,go to most university gatherings ,attend most parties ,visit the YouTube,log in to any social media and you are most likely to come across the the term " Tonga ". Truly the term is here to stay . what we must be concerned about though is the effect and the impart it is having on people .

So What is actually wrong with the song ?
Ha! a lot .We live in the world scientist call call a global village ,because of the aid of the internet ,and social media ,news spread more quickly than normal .People share posts ,video clips ,retweets ,audios on these social media thus aiding in the wide spread news or matters arising . I got to hear of this term mostly on social networks . In as much as these social mediums are not evil ,the devil uses it the more to accomplish evil plans You might be saying the devil can never create anything since he is not God ,i agree .The devil is not God ,and he hasn't created anything in his life before ,however he is a pervert ,perverting the good things God has created . Do let me remind you also that the devil was also/ is still a musician ,so he knows how to pervert these songs . He does this because he hates you .
Yes ! if you are a Christian then The devil hates you and if the devil hates you the world also does . Jesus warned his disciples about this in John 15:18
18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. 19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

 
So to all my brothers and sisters ,who still think there is nothing wrong with the song  ,think again .
In my opinion ,the song contains certain hidden messages which actually has a negative impact on the youth. The youth today have lost respect for the women . The female gender has now been reduced to the lowest level. Used used and  disposed off  - use and dump . Use any woman any how you like and dispose her off . The dangerous thing here is that ,the song justifies the actions of the men . Its a pity to see how The dignity of womanhood is gone down the drain .
So now the sale of condoms would be on the rise ,there would be shortage of condoms again this year , teenage pregnancies would be rampant ,STDs would spread ,they would be broken homes ,social vices ,increase government expenditure,divorces will become the order of the day etc . What is disheartening here is to even see little children singing this song . You can imagine what we are teaching these innocent kids ,who wouldn't dance to any tune at a party unless it's Tonga .
Love
Love is patient ,it's kind ,it's devoid of envy and boast ,it's not proud and not rude ,love never fails . Love is a fruit of the spirit ,so true love comes from your spirit .
As Christians we love because we are commanded to do so and not because of our own lustful desires . True love is unconditional, that is not based on any condition or reasons. Jesus gave his disciples a command to love one another in John 13:34
34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
This scripture teaches us how to love . We must love as Christ loves . Then only way we know how Christ loved is his ministry .His ministry was a ministry of love .
He loved everyone to the extent of sacrificing his life for all of us . May  this be a clarion call to the youth .A call to love unconditionally like the way Jesus did . It is my prayer that God will touch the hearts of these youths and change their minds to conform to his .
Stay Blessed !

KENNETH BRAY
~Kenne-tics

DISSONANCE

The subtlety of the mind/ thought and its relation to behaviour /attitude is one that fascinates . It has been proven that our actions can greatly be influenced by our mindset or what we think about.The bible says " As a man thinketh ,so is he . This principle is simple and straight forward but at the same time it speaks of a general truth ;we are what we think . But does our thoughts always conform to our actions /behaviour ? of course not .
There could be dissonances and inconsistence with what we think and what we do. Sometimes we want to do somethings ,but we end up doing exactly the opposite , when that happens, we experience a state of mental conflict and discomfort known as cognitive dissonance .

                         
                                  COGNITIVE DISSONANCE
Social psychologist refer to cognitive dissonance as the presence of incongruent relations among cognitions (thoughts and understanding ) which usually occurs when people hold two /more conflicting beliefs ,ideas or values that frequently results in excessive mental stress and discomfort .
The stress arises within a person who holds a belief but performs a contradiction action /reaction .
(source : wikipedia )
Leon Festinger ,the inventor of the theory proposed that when people exhibit behaviours which are inconsistent with their beliefs , they experience a discomfort called the cognitive dissonance . He said an example can be a smoke addict who despite knowing the dangers and harm smoke has on his health ,he overlooks them and goes ahead to smoke . He goes ahead to do what he knows will kill him .This shows the inconsistency between his behaviour ( a smoker ) and his cognition ( he knows smoking is harmful to his health )
Also when someone is forced to do something they actually don't want to do ,dissonance is created between their cognition (I didn't want to do it ) and their behavior (I did it) .
Cognitive dissonance is a very common discomfort which happens when there is inconsistence between what you want to do and the reality . There is a dissonance when we perform actions inconsistent with our beliefs (cognition ).
This I believe was what Apostle Paul experienced as he penned the text in Romans 7:15 . He said "I don't understand what I do .For what I want to do ,I do not do but what I hate I do" .
Now Paul achieved a lot as an Apostle . He founded several churches in Asia Minor and Europe . Paul used his status as both a Jew and a Roman citizen to take advantage in his ministry to both Jewish and Roman audiences.
For many ,for a man like Paul to make those statements  about  himself simply surprises them .How can The man who had written about 13 books of the New Testament say such things about himself .But  whether we like it or not ,Paul was not only crying for himself but was voicing out the struggle of every Christian ,that is, the struggle with sin .
Romans 7:15
I don’t understand what I am doing. For I don’t practice what I want to do, but instead do what I hate.
Have you ever thought to yourself why you do somethings even though you hate doing it ? Have you ever done something though you knew it was wrong ?Although that action is inconsistent with your beliefs ; Is as though another man lives within you who shrewdly cajoles you to do the very thing you know is wrong .
The unregenerate man is dead in sin , as a result of Adams fall .Every human being is therefore born spiritually dead . Due to this death ,we are naturally ;
1.Hostile to the the laws of God 2.Totally depraved
3.unable to follow God .
After salvation ,and after receiving a new life ,we still err and go contrary to God's law .
We don't do things we know we should do ,howbeit we hate the struggle and would like to live according to God's word ,we don't . We all struggle against sin,though we fail over and over again ,we still want to do better .Though we are forgiven and saved ,sin still dwells in our flesh .
The life of a Christian on earth is a continuous struggle with the flesh . There is therefore a contention between our Spirit (to do the right thing always )and the flesh (to do evil ) .
Here suffer me to quote the exact words of Paul in the book of Romans 7.
14 For we know that the Law is spiritual, but I am merely human, sold as a slave to sin.
15 I don’t understand what I am doing. For I don’t practice what I want to do, but instead do what I hate.
16 Now if I practice what I don’t want to do, I am admitting that the Law is good.
17 As it is, I am no longer the one who is doing it, but it is the sin that is living in me.
18 For I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but I cannot carry it out.
19 For I don’t do the good I want to do, but instead do the evil that I don’t want to do.
20 But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am no longer the one who is doing it, but it is the sin that is living in me.
21 So I find this to be a principle: when I want to do what is good, evil is right there with me.
22 For I delight in the Law of God in my inner being,
23 but I see in my body a different principle waging war with the Law in my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin that exists in my body.
24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is infected by death?
25 Thank God through Jesus the Messiah, our Lord, because with my mind I myself can serve the Law of God, even while with my human nature I serve the law of sin.
Apostle Paul describes himself as unspiritual ,a slave to sin ,a wretched man and a prisoner of the law of sin .His outburst created paroxysms of controversies as to if this passage referred to either believers or the unsaved .
It therefore begs the question "aren't those words used to describe unbelievers ? Whether to believers or not ,the key to understand this passage ,is to first understand the two natures of a Christian .
THE SIN NATURE AND THE SPIRIT
Before the unregenerate man becomes saved ,his only nature is sin ,he is totally depraved in sin;he is a slave to sin . He sins because he is a sinner ,it's his nature .And even after he receives Christ and becomes a new creation (2cor 5:17) he still lives in the old flesh which still has remains of past habits and sins . There is therefore a constant battle for dominance between our sin nature and the Spirit over who wins at pulling the believer to his direction .The spiritual nature drags him towards God and The fleshy nature pulls him towards disobedience and sin . The believer therefore wants to do the right thing but has something within that does not support what he wants to do and desires to do exactly the opposite .
OVERCOMING SIN
Reckoning yourself dead :As Christians ,the power of sin has been broken in our lives . Hence when a Christian sins it is his willful act and not sins domination over him .
2.Rely on the Holy Spirit ;we can not be saved by grace and be sanctified by our own efforts. We must therefore rely on the Holy Spirit to do that .
Who will rescue me from this body that is infected by death?
What glad tidings for the undeserving,for Christ to come and die ,so those who believe In him will be saved and hence transformed .
When we put our faith in Christ we are set in a process of sanctification .
Do let me put this very plainly, Sanctification is a process and can never be complete -It is that which believers are conformed by the Holy Spirit into the image of Christ . Though some sins are easier to overcome immediately one is saved ,others are not .There is therefore the need for constant renewal of the mind .
Behold I am vile -job 40:4
Jesus Christ , our
Justifier ,didn't come  for the righteous and